It's off to work I go. Today. For a week and a half.
Then I'm done with work for a while. I'm not sure how long. Oh, how I'd like to elaborate on my feelings about this, but the general consensus is that you keep your work life off of the blog.
So while I sort it all out in my head and figure out what is appropriate to say, I'll leave it at this: something big happened to me and my little family that has made me reevaluate some things in my life. I don't know that I'll be a stay at home mom forever but for a little bit at least, that's the plan.
It won't be all that bad. Adelle is a hot ass crying reflux mess most of the day so for two weeks? NOT MY PROBLEM until 5 PM! HA!
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I'm in the same boat right now... had my first baby (2 months early) in April. He spent 5 weeks in the hospital, so hey, no big deal to go back to work, right? I had to walk away every day for a month. I went back to work at the end of June, and I was seriously fine with it.. until this week apparently. I cried three times yesterday and this morning on the way in. I don't know if I want to stay home full time, but I am so ready to ditch my job for a while. Good luck and hang in there!
I became a SAHM about a year ago... it's not what I had planned, but I've really enjoyed it mostly. Do some research and learn about things you can do in your community and take the kids too... children's museums, playgrounds, library programs... I have a much greater appreciation of my community since becoming a SAHM. You might check out cheap daycare options too, like gyms with free child care or mother's morning out programs. I hope you enjoy your time at home. If you find trouble enjoying it, ask for help, it can be hard to find that balance.
You know, I quit my job after my son Oliver passed away. I remember distinctly sitting there in the aftermath thinking "Wait....really? Is there actually a point to working this hard?"
I will tell you for free it is the single best decision we have EVER made as a family. It has been so good for everyone - not just my daughter (who's now about to go into Grade 1), not my son (who was born 14 months after Oliver). Not just about me, not having to deal with work stuff. It's knit us together better and stronger. It's made it so that the weekends are not all about catch up and doing chores and errands that there weren't time for during the week. We get to Saturdays and look at each other, and it's like "What do we want to do this weekend?" And then we do it.
It's been really really good for us - and I hope that's true for you guys too. As you say it doesn't have to be forever. But making decisions "for now" in the interest of your family? Not a bad thing - not a bad thing at all.
xo
Christy.
I hope everything is okay with your family... Everything will work out. It always does! Have fund with your beautiful little girls! :) Will you still be blogging?
I'm so sorry for Adelle's reflux. When my Laney was less than a week old her's started and OMG I remember watching the clock waiting for B to get home so I could have 5 minutes without holding a screaming child. Even now, 4 months later she has trouble some nights. While I'm not sure I could be a full time SAHM, I wish I could at least give it shot. Hope everything is well with the family besides the refulx.
Joey refluxed until he.....well he's five and does rarely still. But the projectile vomit lasted until he was about 18 months. Fun times. Fun times. But yeah, being a stay at home momma has been the easiest most difficult thing I have ever done.
And now I'm going to start babysitting because the kids that have been keeping me home will be in school full time. So it's rewarding and fun.
I hope everything is okay. (Because I'm thinking that you are alluding to something ELSE that happened and not just the stuff I already know about.)
And I really like staying at home momming. It's not for everyone but it is for me so I hope you feel the same way.
Ugh, reflux sucks!!! Our preemie Ian also had reflux, Zantac helped quite a bit with his crying fits. Hope you guys are able to find something that helps with Adelle's.
Hope you're okay. I just became a SAHM about 2mths ago when we relocated. It took a bit of time for me to adjust, honestly I think the whole moving to a new place where I knew no one didn't help but now we're in a good routine and it's nice not to deal with the stress of work. That being said there are good days and bad days just like at the office and in the bad moments I try to remember that this too shall pass. It's awesome having the freedom to do things with your kids whenever during the week, run errands not just in a rush on the weekends and definitely look into a moms group or playdates so you & the babes can socialize with others. Best of luck with the transition and hope your last week and a half at the office goes smoothly!
I am glad to hear that you are taking time for yourself and your girls. I cannot begin to imagine the stress you have been under, and cannot imagine having to deal with that and work at the same time! Ugh. Take time. Go to the park. Get the meds sorted out. Enjoy.
I hope everything is alright. And I hope you can enjoy your time at home with your girls. It's not something everyone prefers, but I hope you find that it's something you enjoy.
Hugs to you and your family.
Being a SAHM mom is great until it just really sucks to not have a minute to yourself to do anything. And I mean anything. I'm glad it's the choice we were able to make for our family, but some days, oh how I wish I was able to drop off my little one and actually use my brain and interact with adults in the peace and quiet of an office. (And I've been jealous of you for being able to do that!)
Hoping that your time at home is filled with more sunny days than grey.
Good for you for taking some time - whether or not it was in your original "plan". I hope everything goes okay for the next couple weeks and that you enjoy your time home with the girlies.
I hope everything is ok and I can't wait to hear further updates. Its sometimes good to step back and get your bearings.
Thanks for keeping us (strangers) in the loop on your little family. I really hope everything is ok, and hope to hear more from you about what is going on.
I hope you are feeling good about your decision. Be kind to yourself!
First, I hope everything is okay. You deserve a little more than mundane from the universe for a while.
Second, I think you're going to enjoy staying at home, for however long. I'm planning/hoping to quit my job by the end of the year. So whatever your reasons, I hope it works for you.
And lastly, the ambiguity of this post is KILLING ME. Well played, Knepper, well played.
I'm making the transition to SAHM too (since May) and I've found it to be wonderfully hard and terribly enjoyable all in one. It's definitely an adjustment (not just for you, but your husband as well.....make sure to remind him that he still gets to do chores too! haha). The best advice I've gotten is that "the days are long but the years are short". I try to remember that whenever I feel overworked and underpaid and have a rough day with my kiddo. That always makes me just stop what I'm doing and give her a big ol' hug and smooch. :)
Enjoy your time home!
Reflux sucks. For real. My younger girl had silent reflux and I was convinced that having a second child ruined my life. It turned out she had a dairy allergy and once we got it under control, life drastically improved. But now we're just back to being dramatic because it's so!much!fun!
Reflux sucks. For real. My younger girl had silent reflux and I was convinced that having a second child ruined my life. It turned out she had a dairy allergy and once we got it under control, life drastically improved. But now we're just back to being dramatic because it's so!much!fun!
i always enjoy your updates, jenneper! this one has me scratching my head a bit, drooling for more info, and FEELING YOUR PAIN on the reflux thing. i hope that your sweet adelle (and the rest of the family) gets some help/relief soon. it took many months to get docs to listen to me and help my son with his severe reflux, but once the correct diagnosis was made and the meds/regimen were in place, it was like i got a whole new baby. as for the SAHM gig, go easy on yourself and have fun with the transition. i hope that the change gives you healing time and fun time with your sweet family.
I too am wondering if you mean something new happened, or that with all that happened, you've decided you need a break. Whatever the case may be, do what's right for you and your family. I'm working and I have two little girls your girls' ages (within a few months of both, actually). It's damn hard. I feel like I'm running around like crazy and wondering if the nearly $2000 I'm spending a month on daycare is worth it. Some days it is, some days it isn't. More soul searching is required for me at least. Hang in there and get back to us!
As Meghan says above, it really is "wonderfully hard and terribly enjoyable." I will say being at home with my son is the HARDEST and most AMAZING job I've ever had. I went back to work part-time after being home with him for 15 months. I still struggle with whether that was the right decision, but it gives me that illusive balance we're all looking for.
My advice is to get out of the house every day. No matter what. Go to the library. Schedule a play date. Splash in the local pool. Take a walk around someone else's neighborhood. Just do something outside of your house and your routine. It helps you from going bonkers, and gives you and your LOs something to look forward to every day.
Congrats on your decision. Whatever it brings, try and enjoy the time with your beautiful girls.
Life changes - you've gotta roll with it. Enjoy your last 2 weeks and then the following time as SAHM.
More time for blogging? :)
I think its wonderful. I could never stop working entirely but I worked 3 10 hour days per week while my daughter was little and then only worked 2 8 hour days a week once my son was born. I treasured those days.
I worked Mon, Tuesday and Thursday. So Wed and Fri were days for my daughter and I. I didn't put her in daycare and go about running errands. I kept her home from daycare and we hung out together. She is now 19 and entering her 2nd year in college and I treasure the memories of those days. Then I worked even less (2 days a week) when my son was born until he was 2 and I could work at home. We needed my income and health insurance so I couldn't quit. Now that I am getting divorced I am happy that I have a job!! LOL ENJOY!!
Staying at home was not something that we even considered - until 2 weeks before I went back to work. I lasted 7 weeks to get a bonus and was out of there. It was rough at first - but you'll find your groove quickly and I bet you enjoy it!
Good luck!
I hope that all is well, that the something big is an ok thing, and that your week and a half are painless. I hope that the girls are well.x
Hope that this new bump in the road is a minor one.
I remember thinking when you went back to work after the twins were born how difficult that must have been. Even if they had both been ok it would have been hard, but with everything that happened I can only imagine it must have made things even more stressful.
I only work Wednesday & Thursday and although I like my work, I love the days when I get to have fun with my boy. Today we have been swimming and we go to playgroup and baby sign classes on Monday & Tuesday. It's a nice balance.
I'm glad you are taking some time out for you and your family, hoping that nothing else has happened and also that you have a lot of fun with your girls.
Good luck with everything!
Sick of the kids? Read my blog post about how you're all nice and welcoming and stuff. Seriously, I wrote about you here, http://www.journeysofthezoo.com/2012/07/liebster-award-recipient.html
I think of you and all your girls often.
Besos, Sarah
Zookeeper at Journeys of The Zoo
Mother to Two Triplets
Here's hoping that it's something wonderful that has happened!
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